Dear Dawn · Family · Travel

Should you stay or should you go?

Dear Dawn,  I wish I had the courage to take a year off with my family. But what if the kids miss something valuable and have to repeat a grade?

Dear What if,

I get it. Should you stay or should I go? Good parents always ask themselves the same question when making a decision: “Will my kids have to repeat a grade or require years of therapy as a result of my choice?” Someone wiser than I once said “Work backward from death.” Now ask yourself: “is repeating a grade the worst thing?”  Makes you put things into perspective.

Our family needed a reset button because we were headed in a direction I didn’t like, going from ‘living life large’ to becoming introverted, fearful and hesitant.  Ron and I longed for our kids to discover this wonderful world God had left us, but even more we wanted them to grow to be problem-solvers, independent, confident young men. We had high standards and knew that in life’s game of “Show and Tell,” “Show” was always better than the “Tell.”

It wasn’t easy. Being a family is never easy. But parents,  it is worth the work, worth the investment of time into our most precious treasure – our kids. We saw so much positive change in each of our boys during this adventure.   They seemed to like who they were, which is a strong foundation for life. We solved every problem — as a family.  Together we faced difficult situations, juggled emotions and bad moods, made decisions and determined direction. Everyone had a map – no GPS!

Taking a year off with your family is not for everyone. You must be prepared to become a ‘gap filler road-school teacher,’ which requires a lot of work. But learning takes on a new angle when you do life up-close and personal, as a family. Don’t let your fear of travelling to the unknown direct your steps forward. Don’t wait till your kids need to reset their priorities and principles. Do it now.

So, should you stay?  Nyet.

You should go.  DA!                    Trenton and Colton in  Russia

Great travels!  Dawn

Family · Travel

“Cell-fish”

The Word of the Year for 2013,  was Selfie.

Selfies:  “A photo of yourself usually taken by yourself on a cell phone or some hand held device.”

That was the year the term took off even though the process of self-portraits draws us back 40,000 years to the cave paintings.

So what do you call it when a family posts photos of themselves in adventurous circumstances, in exotic, remote foreign places?  Some may  call it “Cell-fish”.  I call it proof.  A picture is worth a thousand words.

We had no cell phone service during our trip around the world, but we used and abused our cell phone cameras.  I admit, we are “Cell-fish.” But how better to remember where we were and how we were feeling (kid’s faces authentically reflect the feelings of each moment.) But a simple photo sparks memories of smells and tastes that last long after the embarrassment of having to pose for another photo-op.  We didn’t want to merely see the wonders of the world (and I’m here to tell you there are a lot more than seven).  We wanted to be part of the experience.

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Since their discovery in 1974, the Terracotta Army of Xian has been featured everywhere — from Nat. Geo to the Smithsonian, and they have toured the world’s finest museums.   But we will always remember how it felt to be in the pits with them.  I am not even certain they allow tourists to do that any longer.

Yes.  We are “Cell-fish.”   But we are grateful for every photo that reminds us of the moments we spent with each other.  The moment in time is remembered digitally,  by our own moment in time. We encourage you once again to get out of your comfort zone, and whether it is at the top of the mountain in Thailand, in the pits of Xian, or in the untravelled areas of your own hometown,  get “Cell-fish!”

Dawn

 

 

 

Parenting · Travel

Role Reversal

“Where do they get all that energy?!” my mom would ask my dad, referring to my brother, sisters and I when we were young kids.   I didn’t catch the full meaning  till I had my own kids and then I heard myself ask the same thing.

The roles reversed when we decided to take our family world trip.  Call it a blessed infusion of energy, a burst of enthusiasm or just the knowledge that we had bitten off a huge footprint to cover and schedule to maintain.  We were all infused and enthused!

Our day would start with rigorous exercise for each Hirn. Road School began with PE:  Physical Education to some, Physical Exhaustion for others.  Go ahead, call me Drill Sergeant.  You’re not the first.

Our trip would include plenty of walking, carrying, keeping up and waiting and I knew we needed stamina to stay sharp, alert and energized.    Ron and I told the guys to make the best use of their down time, to rest when they could and ‘cop a squat’ wherever possible.  Tyler perfected the position.cop a squat.jpeg“Conserve your energy,” ”pace yourselves,” we told them.    And sometimes they chose the craziest places to catch up on rest.    9,999 rooms in the Forbidden City had sapped their energy.pooped Forbidden City.jpegBut did our kids ever complain?   What do you think?  They learned to complain creatively, always supplying some sort of show and tell to support their abuse claim.    Ouch.  

Ow!.Czechjpg.jpegBut hangnail, stubbed toe, blisters or cuts, we kept right on moving.  And in a moment of role reversal, as they rehearsed their whines,  I’m certain they looked at their old mom and dad and asked each other:  “Where do they get all that energy?”

Dawn

Adventure with Engagement AWE · Travel

Imagine . . .

Ron and I always loved travel and measured ourselves by the experiences we had, the people we met, the people we helped encourage and the people who encouraged us.    We broadened ourselves by increasing our respect for those who approached life differently than we.  We all try to make things better – not always with success, but mostly with good intentions.

Maya Angelou said You are the sum total of everything you’ve ever seen, heard, eaten, smelled, been told, forgot – it’s all there. Everything influences each of us, and because of that I try to make sure that my experiences are positive.”

When you come upon age-old cities, you change.  Self-realization, I guess.  America is so young, and these cities have seen so much change in their thousand-year existences.

Czech this out (and pardon the pun. It was too good to pass up):  Prague, a city of castles,  museums, theatres, and galleries is the capital of the Czech Republic.  The Celts, Northern Europeans, Romans, House of Hapsburg all had their hand in forming this city.  Prague was wiped out a time or two by fire and flood, hit hard by revolutions, and hidden well behind Communism’s iron curtain for many years.  By the time the Hirn family saw Prague, it was a Republic, complete with all of those lovely Romanesque, Gothic, Renaissance Baroque and Bohemian influences.

These wonderful European cities are home to and the birthplace of so many fairy tales and novels.  Yesterday on Facebook, I gave you my version of what happens at night on the Charles Bridge.  Talking statues?  It may be fiction.  It may not.  But we always encouraged our kids to look beyond the logical and develop their imagination.    Take a turn:   First step, organize a family trip and seek these cultural treasures for yourself.  Second step, put together the facts. Third step:  make up your own story.    Then imagine . . . .

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How do you think J.K.Rowling got her start?

Dawn

Adventure with Engagement AWE · Encouragement · Travel

Reach!

Have you read Bob Goff’s book, Love Does, yet?  Drop what you’re doing, rush out and get yourself a copy.  It’ll save you thousands on therapy. Bob hits life head on, unafraid of what other people think of him, say to him or do to him.  In Bob’s mind, nothing matters more than Love Does!

“Living a life fully engaged and full of whimsy and the kind of things that love does is something most people plan to do, but along the way they just kind of forget.  Their dreams become one of those “we’ll go there next time” deferrals.  The sad thing is for many there is no “next time” because passing on the chance to cross over is an overall attitude toward life rather than a single decision.”

Bob calls himself a recovering lawyer and adds: “I used to be afraid of failing at something that really mattered to me, but now I’m more afraid of succeeding at things that don’t matter.”

Oh how I relate!   Everything about what mattered most to me changed when my precious seven-year old son was killed.   That was the day the spit hit the fan (nice save, Dawn) and I realized how fear was affecting my life and the lives of my husband and my other three sons.

The world is full of people who share joy, sorrow, anger, fear and discouragement just like we do.  Don’t live your life in the planning stages.   Get out of your comfort zone and meet those who will benefit from your encouragement.

We each get motivated differently; the point is you need to get motivated somehow.  For us it was about taking our family through foreign countries, meeting the people and learning to love and trust ourselves and others once again.  For Bob Goff, it was giving away all the profits from his best selling book, Love Does,  to build schools and safe houses for women and children in Uganda, Nepal, India, Iraq and Somalia. Once in Somalia,  Bob was cornered by heavily armed rebels.  He pulled out his own personal large assault weapon – his smile and his whimsy, walked over to one of them, camera in hand, and asked if he could grab a selfie.  Seriously.

His reach is a lot greater than ours, but the thing is, at least we are reaching! How about you?   Reach out .

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Practice your smile everyday.  Then give it away.  You’ll never miss it!

Have a great weekend!

Dawn

 

Encouragement · Travel

Flying Turkey

“We all belong. The world is more beautiful the more you accept.”  That was the copy for the Airbnb ad played during the Superbowl – not a cheap message, but a good one.  The cost for a :30 Superbowl Commercial, was upwards of $5-million.

Was I the only one wondering why Turkish Airlines took such a healthy hack into their advertising budget when so many of their destinations are questionable at this time?    Their enticement was spot-on “There are those of us who like to venture to the unexplored, those of us who go out there with a sense of wonder, reaching worlds; finding delight in our differences. If you are one of us, and you would like to explore more of this great planet … we’re ready to take you there … it’s time.”

I completely agree with the 79-year old actor, Morgan Freeman, but for this:  Explorers and adventurers are usually more concerned with the places they are headed and the experiences that got them there, than stretch-out seating and drinks with baby umbrellas in them.

First Class was never in the budget or the plan for Ron and me and we certainly didn’t want to expose our kids to that world before they could earn it.    We were all about “widening the Hirn horizons” and never had comfort in mind when we traveled.  Explorers seldom do.   Safety was our issue.

We wanted to meet as many of our foreign sisters and brothers as we could, but we would have never put our kids in harms way in enemy soaked territories.  Our lives became enriched as we met the people and experienced life as they do.  And it was always our intention to leave with them our message of encouragement, and to bring home with us a new resolve of their courageous living.

We encourage you to explore this great planet.    How you get there is up to you!turkish.jpeg

Dawn

Encouragement · Travel

Just a peak . . .

October last year, in an effort to draw you and your family into the desire of family travel,  I wrote a blog called Just a Peek.

“For the past three years, I have begged you to take a family trip.  Don’t you hate people that find something wonderful in their life and dog you until you do it?  Unless you are in the ‘planning stages of an adventure,’ I have failed.  So I’m trying a new tactic called “Just a Peek.”

Today, four months later, I’m taking a new swipe at enticing you and your family to travel to some of the great places we visited.  It’s called:  Just a Peak.   Ask a mountain climber why he or she climb the mountain, and they will tell you: “It’s because it’s there!”   It’s wasn’t important that we climb to the top of each mountain we faced when we traveled through the world — although we had our share of fun doing so when possible.  Sometimes we just stood beneath the peak..Burj Kalifa Dubai lrgst.jpg Burj Khalifa, in Dubai, highest structure in the world!

Whether you are standing on the Great Wall of China, overlooking the Mostar in Bosnia,  the Dalmatian Coast of Croatia, or standing beneath mighty Mount Vesuvius in southern Italy, you can say “I was there.”

Consider the peaks you have reached in your life.  Now consider how many are out there, ready to be climbed or hiked or just seen up close.  Make a peak plan for you and your family – quite literally a mountaintop experience!

Why should you seek out these mountaintops all over the world?  Because they are there!

Great weekend

Dawn

Adventure with Engagement AWE · Travel

Roads

If you don’t know where you are going, any road will get you there. Lewis Carroll. His real name was Charles Lutwidge Dodgson but the writer called himself Lewis Carroll.  It didn’t really matter.  When he took his vision for his Alice of Wonderland-fame, through the looking glass, he had to start somewhere. But you know from the elaborate details of his story, there was a lot of day-dreaming and planning before the pen hit paper.  The point is, he started!

When people ask me how we were able to take the family world trip, immediately they see $$ signs and teams of people preparing the way for us.  But the team that planned, the team that saved, the team that studied health and safety issues, food safety and charted their way safely across the world,  was Team Hirn, who ran in conjunction with the US State Department/Travel.   Planning was intense – but so was the reward.

I know – sounds exhausting and you’d rather just take your family back to that tired old condo on the beach.  But unless you start to make a bigger plan, you and your family will never see the other side of the shore.

Don’t let fear stand in your way.  Yes, travel warnings have increased, but there are so many countries which welcome Americans, why would you choose to visit one that didn’t?  North Korea?  Angola?  Somalia? Iran?  Seriously?  There are so many wonderful places on earth, why on earth would you choose these?

Be like Lewis Carroll, whose story about Alice began in his imagination. See yourself in China, Japan, SE Asia and beyond. Then start making a plan – and commit to stick to it.  That’s is the first step to any success.

As Dolly Parton once said, “If you don’t like the road you’re walking, start paving  another one.”

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Dawn

Family · Parenting · Travel

Home of the brave

I love America and am so thankful we have the freedoms our forefathers gave us – One Nation Under God — though we are having a bit of trouble with the  ‘indivisible part’  lately.    America is still a democracy!!

The Hirn home is not a Democracy.   If we operated on the democratic principle our boys would be on their screens, skip school most days and exist on Cheetos and soda.

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Ron and I are the leaders of the Hirn Family — a united front – and though we want our sons to have a great youth, it is not our goal to see them constantly happy.   This fact, of course, troubles them often because “when they get to be parents they are going to let their kids make up their own minds.”    I simply am repeating what they tell me.

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The Hirn family operates on Monarchy principles and on occasion we are forced into Dictatorship.  But we operate out of love, which often separates good from evil.  When we first announced the concept of a 180-day family World adventure, you could see the confusion on their faces.    Each kid was mentally pushing off from a different dock!

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Joyce Meyer once said: “The best way to get along with people is to not expect them to be like you.”  That goes for family members too.

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A family trip is always a great challenge.  Foreign soil adds obstacles to the mix.      It’s important to acknowledge each member of your troop. Though they are your children, not one of them sees life the same as you do.   Take time with them, encourage their feedback, help them face their concerns and give them value by listening to what they have to offer.  Listen long!    Being in the leadership position of any organization is difficult.  But I think being lead in a family is even harder because it requires more love than skills!

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Practice the leadership secrets of Nelson Mandela and “Lead from the back — and let others believe they are in front.”

Dawn

Dear Dawn · Travel

Sign Language

Dear Dawn,

“We’re planning a trip to SE Asia this fall, and I’ve talked to people who say it isn’t necessary to know the language because many people there speak English.  They say the signs are clear.  But because it’s me and my two daughters, I’m a little concerned.  What is your take on this?”

 It’s one thing to plan a trip for yourself; quite another to drag along precious cargo.  The last thing any of us need is to get lost or even worse, look like fools in the eyes of our kids.  I realize that is part of the misperception of being mom, and I get this on good authority.   But I have to say, for us it was fairly easy.

We found most signs to be self-explanatory.  We all had our favorites.  This Japanese remote control toilet was mine:   See?  Not that difficult!

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Above all remember this:  If you live long enough, you’ll be able to verify that at one point, everything old is new again.  40000 years ago, people left remnants of their existence in caves, with their sepia toned cave paintings.

In Ancient Egypt around 32 BC, someone began communicating using hieroglyphs.   Will your legacy be an emoji?  If so, here’s mine:

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Dawn