Family · Travel

To hostel or not to hostel . . .

That is the question.   And the answer is:  HOSTEL!

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First let’s clarify – We chose hostels because of the three C’s: ‘clean, convenient and cheap.’ Savvy travelers have caught on and so has Airbnb. Www.hihostels.com (Hostels International) is one of the many other sites offering a full listing of amazing places that we often used.  We know, photos can sometimes stretch the size or lose focus on what is hidden beneath the sheets.  But we can attest, almost all of the hostels we stayed in were wonderful.

hostel.jpeg Perhaps you just cannot envision putting your family in a hostel.  Can you say ‘shortsighted?’ You say cramped; we say cozy.  Because on a family vacation,  privacy is overrated,  overpriced and frankly,  a dream for another day down your road of life.  And when you hit that road,  you’ll find yourself looking back at these as “the good old days,” and wondering why the kids never call.

Some of our best memories come from our nights together in the hostel, reviewing the day behind us and planning the days in front of us.  If you don’t want giggling and ghost stories, pay up for privacy.  OrBut if you want clean, safe and comfortable, family friendly memory builders, hostels are a great bet.

And cheap!  Seven Heavens Guesthouse in Sarajevo, Bosnia and Herzegovina offers an 8 bed room like the one we stayed in above,  for a whopping $10.77 per night.  And that’s why I often laugh at people who say they can’t afford world travel, only to head off to The Big Apple and Broadway.

So when it comes to the question:  To hostel, or not to hostel, there is only one answer from the Hirn Family:

Hostel, baby!  Hostel!

Have a great week!

Dawn

Travel

New beginnings

Aren’t they wonderful?  New beginnings never meant clean slates — though wouldn’t that be nice!  The world is full of so many disappointments and problems, every now and again it’s nice to take a hard look at what you are doing,  give it the old clean sweep and get ready for a nice ‘re-do’.  Thanks to Steve Jobs pioneering efforts, we now have new technology opportunities available every day.

This is my anniversary — one-hundred blogs!  I think it’s time to celebrate by treating myself to a new format.  Hopefully, I’ll  be able to share video and all sorts of quirkiness with you, answer your questions, and it will be easily read on your mobile!   It’s gonna take a couple of minutes to develop, but I think it will be worth it.  Because everything worthwhile takes a trip of sorts.  I guess that is a pretty good tag line for the blog:

Everything worthwhile takes a trip of sorts.

So hang on to your phone, iPad or laptop and I’ll be sharing with you in the next one-hundred blogs in brand new form!

From pony express, to sort wave, to radio and  telephone, to television, to computer, to social media and streaming.    Personally I cannot wait for them to develop ‘smell-o-vision’ or a form of digital transfer of smells and tastes.  Then together we can hit the streets of Shanghai again, visit the food carts and really partake in some AWE.

Stay tuned!

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Dear Dawn · Travel

Rules and Regs

Dear Dawn,

 “You asked us to write about our concerns about traveling outside the country with our families:  I keep wondering about the laws we might be unknowingly breaking.  I heard we could be fined in Singapore for chewing gum.  Or spitting.  Thoughts?”                    J.  Gainesville

 Dear J,

The U. S. State Department will set you up beautifully on their site:

https://travel.state.gov/content/passports/en/go/checklist.html

Yes!  Don’t chew or spit in Singapore.  The city is pristine!  There are some tricky rules in some of the other countries concerning women, people with disabilities and LGBT individuals, so as I’ve reminded you so many times, plan.   But overall, we easily slipped into the rules. Part of the fun of traveling with your family is that you learn to read the signs even if you can’t read the language.  And yes, there are some dumb laws.

But did you ever check the dumb laws on Alabama’s books?

Bear wrestling matches are prohibited.

You must have windshield wipers on your car.

Masks may not be worn in public.

It’s illegal to impersonate a person of clergy.

And my personal favorite:

You may not carry an ice cream cone in your back pocket. (wwwdumblaws.com)

If you are planning a trip anywhere, even in the US of A, it’s always a good idea to freshen up on the laws, driving, pedestrian rights, etc.  And by all means, if you and your donkey are driving over to Georgia, don’t let him stay the night in your hotel bathtub.  It’s illegal there!  Florida might also be a problem if you have sons.

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Have a safe weekend.  Stay warm!

Dawn

Encouragement · Travel

Fearless flying

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“I always wonder why birds stay in the same place when they can fly anywhere on earth.  Then I ask myself the same question.”  I didn’t come up with that saying, but thought it was worthy of repeating.

It’s not necessary for you to cross oceans, or ride a UK Hover Bus, the China Express in Ecuador, or the Maglev Train in Shanghai – although we would recommend at least a couple of those trips.

This blog was meant to inspire you and your family to step out of the front door of your house, and wander.

Wherever I go, I get questions.  Concerns.  Curiosities.  So I decided to start a little piece in my blogs called: “Dear Dawn.” I know.  It’s been done before and at this point I am glad my name isn’t “Anne or Abby.”

And to be perfectly honest, I hope not to be challenged to help the lovelorn or those who have deeply rooted psychological problems, though I will be happy to divert you to those who can help.   But I do have a few ideas when it comes to family travel and adventures and certainly planning a large family adventure on a budget.    I also have answers as to why a mother who has lost a child would take a chance with her other three sons, in foreign territories,  with the threat of terror and disease.   Irony or insanity?

Life is about taking healthy chances.  Raising boys into men, or girls into women for that matter, is a huge risk. And when you look back you realize you had little control from the get-go.   From swaddling them, to bouncing them on your knees, to putting them on that school bus, each new experience is a deposit in their courage bank.  So send me your thoughts, your questions about family travel, safety, health, cost of living, where to stay, where to eat, how to cut corners, traveling light, schooling kids on the road and in foreign classrooms, life after loss, grief, or keeping a marriage together after tragedy. I’ll share what I’ve got.  Trust me, my advice is not vetted through Harvard or Stanford but through some rather daring experiences with my husband and our four sons.

Life is either hard or a delusion. It’s my hope to help you, to encourage you to take a step out of your comfort zone.   To run instead of walking.  To fly instead of running.  To hop on the bullet train to adventure.  Your family is the beneficiary.

Dawn

Send your questions to dawnhirn@gmail.com or hit me up on Facebook!

Family · Parenting · Perfecting Dysfunction · Travel

Too much stuff

I have 5 potato peelers in my drawer.  Five!  Not that I cook potatoes every night like my grandmother did, but should we decide to have potatoes, I can find five different ways to peel ‘em!

I’m not alone.  The Wall Street Journal writes, “Americans spend $1.2 trillion annually on nonessential goods—in other words, items they do not need.”  Like five potato peelers!  Psychology Today reports Americans spend more on shoes, jewelry, and watches ($100 billion) than on higher education.

And even with five potato peelers, four can openers, three scented candles, two pair of UGGS, we still can’t fit everything into our homes without at least one storage facility!  Does this make us happy? Ask Psychology Today that one.  Depression is on the rise.

Who can we blame?  You can try to pin the thing on Steve Jobs, but we have abused the technological opportunities he provided.  We must blame ourselves. We are so busy providing stuff for our families, we overlook the importance of spending time together – away from the normal structure of things.  And psychologists say spending time with your family is itself a huge gift!!   Ron and I have been trying to sell you on the idea of family travel because the experience was so incredible for us.  World travel costs far less than you would imagine, if you plan ahead.  We did, and still love looking back on our adventure:  The voyages of the Starship Hirn – to boldly go where we hadn’t been, to  explore and seek out strange new (and very very old) civilizations.  

In the weeks ahead I will be giving you some tips on how Ron and I were able to take this trip.  Your family deserves the trip of a lifetime.  You can dig up memories year after year — no storage required!   And seeing places up close and personal beats the socks off a two dimensional photo on a web page.  Yes, you can afford it if you cut corners and plan, plan, plan.   Ron, Tyler, Trenton, Colton and I all did so much homework.  Then, we lived it!

Or, you can stay home and complain that you just can’t afford to travel,  while you stockpile newer technology, another car, boat or hover board.  Your choice.  But remember, the stuff you cherish cannot hug you back.

Anyone need a potato peeler?

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Dawn

Travel

One country at a time.

Wading through the photos of our 2014 trip down the Balkan Peninsula, I was a bit confused about what was what.  I can show Ron a photo of anywhere we visited throughout more than thirty countries, and ‘bingo’ he will identify the city, the country and many of the details that have slipped my mind.  But I know I’m driving him crazy with my questions.

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It’s like the old comedy sketch – “Who’s on first?”  Abbott and Costello on YouTube.  Check it out, it’s hilarious.

Just 58 miles across the Adriatic Sea from Italy lies the Balkan Peninsula.    And though it is beautiful countryside, Croatia, Serbia, Bosnia, Herzegovina, and Montenegro have been terribly affected by the war.

 

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Dalmatian Coast, Croatia

A friend of mine who left her home and business in Bosnia with her husband and two small boys, seeking political asylum, tells how lucky they were to escape. They have horror stories of being barricaded in their home with mattresses over windows deflecting flying bullets.  Yet she always remembers the natural resources of her native Bosnia with great affection.

 

 

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Montenegro, Balkan Peninsula

 

 

I still have trouble accurately separating some of our photos.  Croatia?  Bosnia and Herzegovina?  Montenegro?  Dalmatia?  Several of the names have changed.  But in the larger scheme of things it isn’t odd, considering Burma is now Myanmar, Bombay is Mumbai, Saigon is Ho Chi Minh City, and if you try to get to Constantinople, you’ll end up in Istanbul.  And frankly, why would you?

 

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As the Hirn Family drove the Camper down the Balkan Coast, Ron and I were reminded of our 1st ‘Big Trip’ together, pre-kids, 22 years ago. In 1992, we had bought an old VW Camper in Germany and traveled for 8 months thru 20+ European countries, simply reading and exploring the continent(and each other). The Yugoslav Wars were in full swing, so visiting the Balkan Peninsula was pretty much a mute point for us. Seeing this beautiful area of former Yugoslavia with our boys was particularly special knowing the great loss of human life and suffering that took place there 2 decades ago. So at the end of each day with the boys, we set up a campfire to discuss our adventure, share our impressions, and remember our own great loss, yet count our many blessings.

 

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Taking one day at a time was just one of the valuable lessons we learned as a family on this trip.  There was no rushing around, and nobody particularly worried about the geographical boundaries.  And we rarely had to answer the question:  “Are we there yet?”

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And though I may not be able to identify Bosnia-Herzegovina in photos,  I will try to always remember these precious days we shared with each other and our sons.

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Dawn

Travel

Shanghaied!

Shanghaied:  “to trick someone into doing something or going somewhere.”

Three years ago today, we were in Shanghai. Willingly!  Intentionally!  We each had our favorite stories about Shanghai – Trenton and Colton became steamed dumpling connoisseurs.    We found out the steamed dumplings were especially delicious in Shanghai simply because they used a popular American ingredient to entice:  Sugar.    Sweeeeet!

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Every big city beckons you to walk and Shanghai was no exception. We discovered that the 6 of us could stay together better this way. Not only could we get some exercise, but the slower pace lends itself to a less hurried feel and more conversation with the guys.

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Beware of the traffic.We soon learned that cars were definitely the king of the road here, while we pedestrians were obstacles for a driver to scoot around as quickly as possible. On our first day walking in Shanghai, we were nearly run down within the pedestrian crosswalk. Ron and I were terrified, but the boys were excited because it was their first  Ferrari seen in China.

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Electric bikes are on the rise-200 million Chinese own ’em- but there are few drivers here, in general, who qualify for the “Good Driver Discount.” Part of the problem are the rules:  The driver’s test reads like this:  “When you are turning a corner, do you:

  1. A) Let pedestrians go first in a cross-walk
  2. B) Just keep driving
  3. C) Try not to hit them.

Nope!  It’s C.  But, they say, if you one of the ones to get it,  you shouldn’t take it personally. Drivers don’t discriminate when they hit you, a fact which doesn’t make the limp off to the Shanghai International hospital any easier.

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I was personally blown away by the Pudong Financial District.  Left is the sight we saw in 2013:    In 1987, (right) it looked a bit different.   Progress!

If you are looking for a great place to make memories, get Shanghaied like we did.  Let your family adventure begin.  Engage!

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Great Weekend!

Dawn

Travel

Daily bread

The day after Thanksgiving – known to consumers as ‘black Friday,’ is also recognized by overeaters as ‘judgement day.’  Second helpings?  Third helpings?  Even if nobody saw, you are feeling the effects of indigestion.

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It’s difficult for most Americans to get the concept of ‘sufficiency,’ because we are so blessed by abundance.  But the words ‘just enough’ had a great deal of significance to Jesus when He prayed to His dad.   He called it the model prayer, and it included these words: “Give us this day our daily bread.”

Seems easy enough – enough for each, enough for all, enough for evermore.  But sometimes we get caught up in the size of the feast and lose sight of the size of our personal production plants.  It becomes all about quantity, variety, and extravagance until we take the gastric repercussions seriously.

It became clear to me when we traveled the world, everyone doesn’t have ‘just enough.’

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Even in America.  We are approaching the days of the year when ‘abundance runs wild.’  It always hits me the day after Thanksgiving, when I’m packed to the gills, and inundated with ads of Black Friday sales.   When is ‘enough, enough?’  When the money runs out?  When the table is filled with food?  When we find we have three pairs of black pants and two still have the price tags on them?

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During this Holiday season, take a hard look at what you have been given. Life has become so much more precious to me since ‘what mattered most’ was taken away from me.  And having become immersed in helping others through the Ryan Shines Burn Foundation, named for my son who was taken by fire,  I see the results of your generosity. I see changes in lives of those children who have been disfigured by fire.   I see their joy as we offer help from the ravages of a fire, or attend a summer burn camp and get the opportunity to bond with others like them.   Just a bit of your abundance may guarantee their sufficiency.

Check out our foundation:  www.ryanshines.com

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and you may be providing a moment or day of joy for these burn victims.   Daily bread. . . enough for each, enough for all, enough for evermore.

Thank you in advance!

Dawn

Travel

Just a Peek: China

When we chose to stay a month in China, we thought of the words Dorothy uttered to her dog Toto when they landed in OZ:  “I don’t think we’re in Kansas anymore!”   There were obvious differences: giant Buddhas don’t stand in the middle of Birmingham streets, and Legion Field doesn’t look much like Beijing’s Birdnest, the stadium designed for the 2008 Olympics.   We could have stayed home and seen China’s history and beauty in glorious 4K resolution, but we would have missed discovering some of the best treasures of China: her people. There are some definite differences, in many cases admirable:

China’s Ideals                                                                 American Ideals

MYOB                                                                          Get involved in everyone’s

*Fit in                                                                    *Non-conformists (tattoos to T’s)ch family.jpeg

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Value honor                                                              Trust your legal team

Quiet and aggressive                                              Outspoken and animated

Thin profit margin                                                   Wide profit margin

Saves humiliations                                                 “Swim with the Sharks”

Economics come first                                             Relationships come first

Humility is a virtue                                              “Humility”- sign of weakness

Respect for age, wisdom, ability                       Respect for success, wealth, youth

You can discover  China in HD on your TV.  But in order to be blessed by the people, you need total immersion with the  Chinese people.  When you break through their shy exterior, you’ll find the pearl – so to speak!

Dawn

Travel

London Bridge is falling down . . .

As we crossed the Thames River in London, England I had the “London Bridge” ditty stuck in my head.  Agonizing little tune.  One of the guys heard me and asked, “Is this the London Bridge, and why did they always talk about it falling down?”

 

We investigated:   600 years ago, the bridge was strong, with 19 arches secured by strong foundations set into the river bed.  That would have probably been good enough to hold the thing up if some enterprising merchants hadn’t decided to make a mall and fast-food court out of it.  By 1358, London Bridge had 138 shops, and a new-fangled multi-seated public overhanging lavatory, handily dumping ‘dumpage’ into the Thames River.  (Yuk)  Nobody thought it would cause any problem until The Great Stink, of 1858, when the heat of summer aged the poop and voila!   The Great Sink! 

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Westminster Bridge London, England
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Tower Bridge London, England

Fires and wars and floods came along, and they built it back.  But regardless what they did, nothing seemed to hold.  The old song finishes like this:

“Build it up with wood and clay,                                                                                                    Wood and clay, wood and clay. . . . Wood and clay will wash away,                                          My fair lady.

Build it up with bricks and mortar,                                                                                             Bricks and mortar, bricks and mortar. . . .Bricks and mortar will not stay,                         My fair lady.

Build it up with iron and steel,                                                                                                           Iron and steel, iron and steel . . . .Iron and steel will bend and bow,                                   My fair lady.”

Traveling made history come alive for us as a family.  London has so much to offer in the area of ‘strange but true’.   You think the London Bridge is Falling Down nursery rhyme has strange roots, check out:  “Ring Around the Rosy”. It’ll rot your socks!

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Dawn