Remember every STOP: Denial. Anger. Depression. Survival. Acceptance.
So, here’s the first stop.
Which means, “This is a nightmare I’m going to wake up out of, and Ryan will still be here.” Don’t be shocked at that. None of us are prepared to entertain the thought, “it never happened” for very long. You’ve thought it, now feel it. Nobody knows how long each Stop lasts.
Maybe, for some of us, the rest of our life.
For instance, we build a home at the next Stop(the Anger Stop) because we ’re still mad at God, or someone else.
Of course, we are!
Don’t deny your anger!
The church often tells those of us in grief, “don’t be mad at God!”
I say, “Be as mad as you need to be. God can take it.”
So, spend as much time as you need there.
You might even find you need to return to this Stop again and again.
It’s OK. You’re the engineer.
There will always be the opportunity to move forward or return to this Stop.
God built that into our Journey together.
So maybe you’ve left the Anger Stop for now, and Depression has set in. (Mine lasted twelve years.)
You’re on the pills longer than you wanted.
Don’t stew over the length of your stay.
Just survive. It is enough just to survive.
Stop at the Survival Stop. There’s a red light there. Stop. Don’t run it.
And remember God doesn’t take shortcuts, so stick as close to Him as you can.
Where you are right now is not necessarily your ultimate destination.
And if you need to invent a world where tragedy doesn’t happen, invent the world.
Or, reinvent your world.
I’m wondering where you see yourself on “The Grief Train?”
Monday.. my personal journey…