My dad can bench press 350.
My dad can rip the top off a camper without losing his cool.
. . . . . you win.
When a parent commits to 180 full-time days with your kids touring the world, you open yourself to 5K resolution. Intense scrutiny. Errors. All amplified! You’re watching your kids every moment; but even scarier, they are watching you!
Ron, the boys, a videographer and I were traveling in a 25’ rental camper, down the very narrow Almafi Coast road. Our camper was sucking wind going uphill and we were carefully governing our weight going downhill, causing a traffic problem.
The Italian’s drive small, fast cars for a reason. They are not known for their patience, nor do they bridal their passions. We were getting the benefit of horns, hand gestures and passionate verbal assaults. Ron considerately would pull over from time to time, and let the cars behind zoom by before he headed out again. But this is very difficult on the Almafi Coast highway which is exactly 2-lanes wide with no shoulders or pull-offs.
In order to let some very colorful Italians by, Ron pulled off and in haste failed to see the large restaurant awning just above us. Ripping metal is a sound you never forget.
Tyler looked up at what used to be the camper skylight and ceiling and now was clear sky and said: “Oh no. . . dad’s not going to like this.”
Where there once was an awning and a skylight
Stepping out of the camper to assess the damage, Ron faced an angry restaurant owner screaming in his face and the Almafi Coast Fire Department and Police asking questions. One lane had closed which allowed the travelers more time to do their drive-by smirk. And there stood my husband, under the scrutiny of strangers and the watchful eyes of his three boys and wife, in total control and composure as he watched the awning being extracted from the top of his rental camper.
The roadside restaurant after the Hirn Family visit!
Silence after humiliation is salve for the soul.
Ron showed us all his interpretation of true strength. Nothing you can say to your kids will teach them more than your example.
I like the quote by Dave Willis: “Show respect even to people who don’t deserve it not as a reflection of their character, but as a reflection of yours.”
Double-check your behavior. Your kids are!